Constantly arguing and struggling to talk calmly with a soon-to-be ex-spouse during a divorce may leave many feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Moreover, many courtroom battles often leave both parties trying to defend their interests without thinking about what the other one needs.
While some assume every split happens this way, collaborative divorce offers a constructive approach that helps the couple focus on working together instead of against each other. To do this, couples often will use mediation or another form of alternative dispute resolution.
No time in court
The major difference with this approach is that the couple does not go to court, unlike a typical contested divorce. Collaborative divorce lets both parties talk freely in front of a neutral third party. It can cut down on the usual amount of time and money spent on a divorce, which may be particularly important when adding the expense of setting up a second household.
Private and respectful
Courts typically publish public records of a divorce, and even sealed court records can be unsealed. So, if privacy is a priority, it is wise for the couple can keep the details private or shared on a limited basis. This approach may also help the children, who are likely need to adjust to a new life as well. Parents can choose to share how many details with the family.
Couples may prefer this kind of privacy when dealing with sensitive and important topics like childcare, alimony, the value of assets, and the nature of the spouses’ business interests.
Finding a customized solution for the family can also reduce stress. The spouses can create their arrangements, prioritize what they feel is essential, and find a middle ground that they can live with. A less stressful divorce also means less stress in the home, allowing parents to maintain a positive attitude that the children can often pick up on. It also puts the parent in a better mindset for helping the kids when there are issues with the transition.
A better option for moving forward
The needs of each family are different, so the benefits outlined above are some common benefits. There may be other elements that can address the family’s specific needs. Finally, this approach can set the tone for a post-divorce family where the parents will likely need to continue to work together as they raise the family.