Help! How Do I Ask For A Divorce?

You’ve given it a lot of thought, and deep down inside you know that there’s no way to save your marriage. Despite the challenges of divorce and the way it will impact your life in the future, it’s time to push forward.

The first step is discussing your feelings with your spouse. Asking for a divorce sounds simple, especially if you’re not getting along, but it’s not always easy to bring your thoughts to life.

Here are five things you can do to ease the pain and stress of asking for a divorce:

• Think about what you want to say: Don’t assume that you’ll blurt out your intentions and then take things as they come. Prepare everything from what you want to say to how you’ll respond to your spouse’s reaction, whatever that may be.
• Choose the right setting: Divorce isn’t something you ask for on a whim. This conversation will take a lot out of you, so choose the right setting and the right time.
• Be kind: Even if you’re not on good terms with your spouse, this is no time to be aggressive and unfriendly. Remain kind and firm throughout the conversation.
• Protect yourself: Depending on your circumstances, you may have concerns about your spouse becoming violent if you ask for a divorce. If you have any concerns, even a small one, ask for a divorce over the phone or in a public place.
• Put the details on the backburner: There are many details associated with the divorce process, such as child custody, child support, property division, debt division and alimony. You don’t have to talk about these things shortly after asking for a divorce. Instead, you can negotiate the details once you’re in the thick of the process.

There is no easy way to ask for a divorce, but these tips should give you the confidence you need to take the first step.

Once you have your feelings out in the open, turn your attention to the divorce process and the steps you can take to protect your legal rights. Proper preparation will go a long way in giving you peace of mind and keeping you on the right track.

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