There are many beneficial things you can do for your children after you divorce. The things you do in the year or two, or even longer, after a divorce can have a profound impact on how your child grows and changes, adapts and copes with divorce.
As a parent, you likely strive to put your child first, and that’s great. This sets you up to be in a good position to provide what your child needs during such a tumultuous time.
What are some things you should do after divorce to help your child?
While there are many things you could do, some of the best things to do include:
- Being honest in an age-appropriate manner.
- Getting a therapist for your child during or after the divorce.
- Be consistent, so your child knows what to expect from you.
- Be empathetic with your child so that they feel comfortable coming to talk to you about their concerns. Encourage them to talk to you, so they can express their grief, fears or anxieties.
- Never trash-talk the other parent. Remember, your child is 50% your ex, which means that they may take what you say about your ex-spouse very personally. Be kind and respectful; in the long-term, that will help your child most.
It’s important to take steps like these to help your child as they adjust to divorce. It isn’t always easy for children to adapt, but with patience, you can help yours learn to express their emotions safely and to adapt to a new lifestyle in two homes.