As someone who believed that your marriage would last forever, the idea that your spouse is trying to leave can be devastating. Despite your best efforts, it may not be possible to save your marriage, so you'll have to come to terms with your future after divorce.
Divorces are stressful and can be heartbreaking, but that doesn't mean that the legal process has to be. There are two sides to divorce. The first is the emotional, relationship-based trauma. The second is the legal work, which is much like a business arrangement.
How do you handle the two aspects of divorce?
To start with, you'll need to remember that the legal issues related to divorce cannot be altered based on your emotions. You need to think clearly and make decisions that protect you and your finances. If you're emotionally distraught, it may be difficult to make those hard decisions, so you have to find ways to relieve that emotional stress.
Many people do well when they take time for themselves before they begin the divorce process. Separating yourself, getting an apartment and living on your own begins the healing process.
If you receive divorce documents, a good tip is to wait at least 24 hours to respond. You're given a timeline on most documents to indicate how long you can think about what you're being told or informed of before responding. Don't rush to get the divorce over with. Instead, give yourself as much of that time as possible to come to terms with the documents and what they may mean for you.
Your attorney can handle much of the legal work for you, so you can focus on healing during your divorce. It takes time, but you can get through this difficult time in your life.